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| From the rather fab Sell! Sell! blog |
"Crumbs... you're a bit of a cutey aren't you!" (Are we in the 1950s?)
"Well, I had said I'd stay away from sweet things this year, and then I went and messaged you!" (Delete.)
"i spy with my little eye a mcfittie" (This sent from someone who's profile picture was him with a beard of foam.)
"Hi" (Genuinely, that was it. Not even a full stop, let alone a 'how are you'.)
"Hi !" (See above.)
And many others along those lines. Good for making me laugh, not good for making me not single.
Over summer I just focused on work and friends and having a good time really. I don't really get approached in bars... ever. It's weird. Not that I particularly want to be hounded, but it would be nice to get some attention. Still. Never mind.
So late August-ish, I wasn't really looking, but an interesting proposition popped up. I had been following the My Love Life in Your Hands column in the Guardian for a while, and also had been following him on twitter too. Along with some 'helpful' tweets from a friend, we struck up a rapport and in no uncertain terms I suggested, hintedy-hint, that I was single, he was looking for dates, nudge nudge. Anyway, if you're unaware of his rather charming column concept, every week he had a decision to make, one which the general Guardian readership made for him. One week, it was chosen that he join the dating site DoingSomething.co.uk, of which, lo and behold, I was also a member of. After a cryptic twitter DM, asking that he might need my help, he sent me in the direction of his profile.
Now. By very virtue of his chosen profession (anonymous Guardian column writer), we had agreed, theoretically, to perhaps meeting, before I even knew his real name, let alone what he looked like. To protect his identity (and the fact he still operates behind the My Life Your Hands name, and that I bear him no ills) I obviously won't tell you his real name, or anything really else about him, that isn't important to the story. So we shall just stick to calling him MyLifeYourHands, akin to some kind of robot-droid name from the future.
I'm pretty relaxed about writing all this though, and I'm sure he is, because of course, a clause of me dating him would be that he would write about me. How the tables have turned! I ummed and ahhed, but thought, why the hell not. It was anonymous, after all. Also, I'm a slight attention seeker, being a Leo, so, I would get to say that I'd been in the Guardian! Sort of. Aha.
However, all was not as it seemed. The next message from him (slightly edited, it was a tad long) went along the lines of...
"I have a slight problem insofar as that I have some work coming up this week and it's playing havoc with my column deadlines.
Basically, I need to make sure that I've got someone to go out with as a result of signing up here sometime this week, so that I have a story to write whilst I'm away.
What would be amazing is if I could use you as my safeguard in this whole thing. Someone that I can rely on if I don't meet someone on here 'naturally', as it were.
I know that is an obscenely horrid ask - not to mention desperately unromantic - but, as thanks for being my back up, I promise I will definitely take you and buy you drinks, regardless of what happens.
I'll happily answer any questions, I've got nothing to hide so I will be totally honest and upfront with you
What do you think? Could you be prepared to sign on for that?"
My first thought was, gee, he doesn't even want to actually date me, for me, at all. It's just fodder to fill the column inches. I am NOTHING (dramatic swoon). But then I thought, as is typical to me, I shall prove him wrong! I shall go on a date with him and it'll be the best damn date he's EVER BEEN ON! And Guardian readers will all be like 'Oh em gee this girl is amaze!' (All Guardian readers are from Essex in this story.)
And, in his defence, at least he was honest. He didn't have to be honest at all. Seeing as he wrote an anonymous, albeit nationwide-ly-published column about girls, without telling them, he didn't have to tell me. So, I agreed.
It turned out that he was speaking to two other girls on there too, so I needn't have been his backup in the end anyway. And, in turned out that the Guardian readers, in their wisdom, picked me for him to date anyway, so all wasn't as bad as it seemed: http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/poll/2011/aug/25/my-love-life-in-your-hands I'm the 'one with the cutesy screen name'. It's not that cutesy! =/
On Doing Something, there's this cool little feature to 'Spin the wheel of date', which picks your date venue/activity for you. Actually really fun. Our spinning brought us Tea and Cake at the Coach & Horses off Greek St - I love tea. I love cake. Good times.
So the time of the date arrived. I was very nervous. Admittedly, he wasn't really my type from the off - his profile picture confirmed that before I met him - but, he wasn't unattractive. And I'd learned recently that 'my type' is probably the 'wrong type' anyway. The date was actually reeeaaally good. We had great conversation, talked about anything and everything (from male strippers to the perils of old age) and generally had a lovely time.
Here is what he wrote about me. He refers to me as Rebecca - that's not my real name. My name is much nicer. Not that you'll ever know what it is.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/poll/2011/sep/01/my-love-life-in-your-hands
So there. A glowing, however short, review. I do like being referred to as 'spiky and sardonic'. I might put that in my email signature.
I wasn't sure if there was loads of chemistry, but enough, and we could definitely be friends, potentially more, if I could get over the nagging feeling I was being used for literary hilarity/killing time. It struck me (and he sort of alluded to it on the date) that he was getting tired of the endless procession of dates and pressure to always have something to write about. And, as was well documented on the column, he had already met someone he really really liked - she was just in a foreign country, and he had obligations to see the column come to a natural close. BUT, we had a lot of fun. I worked my ass off trying to prove that I could be more than just 'back up'. So, I did hope we would have a second date. Time would tell....
Read Round 2 here!
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